by Linda Wittig
Learn to Take Correction from Your Husband in the Proper Way.
Proverbs 9:8 teaches, “Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee.” When your husband brings one of your faults to view, you should receive his correction and then work on this problem area. Every wife should learn to grow from her mistakes.
A wife should keep the door open for him to correct her. A wife should not get defensive every time her husband rebukes or corrects her. When correction comes, some wives give off the attitude of, “Don’t correct me, Buddy! I don’t want to grow in that area of my life. I don’t want to get any better. I want to stay just the way I am. Don’t you try to change me!”
No! No! No! A wife should learn to receive rebuke in such a way that she grows and learns from his words of correction. By doing so, she can do as the Bible teaches and love the rebuker even more because he cared enough to try to help make her better.
If your husband does rebuke you, please don’t critique the way in which he makes his request. Don’t think, “If he rebukes me in the right way—by sandwiching the criticism in between two praises— then I will respond to him in the right way and do what he says. But if he rebukes me in the wrong way and says it too harshly, then I will show him! I’ll just argue with him. I’ll even let him know some of his faults.”
Please don’t judge his tone of voice and get angry. A wife must respond right in spite of the way her husband may rebuke her. Every wife should simply make a decision that when her husband corrects her, no matter how he says it, she will hear his correction and learn from it.
Let me share an example using the words of two mothers telling a child to clean his room.
One may ask very sweetly, “You do such a good job of cleaning your room. Why don’t you go do what you’re so good at so I can brag on you some more today about your clean room.”
The other mother may yell at the top of her lungs, “Get into that room this very minute and clean out that junk pile! How can you even breathe in there? It looks so disgusting!”
The mothers may make their requests in different ways, but the fact is that the room still needs to be clean. No matter how the mother says it, the child still needs to address the problem and clean his room.
Ladies, we need to remember, as wives, to properly receive rebuke from our husbands—no matter how he says it.